Sunday, February 26, 2017

Trying to be like Jesus - Inside

If the first priority for Jesus among the Nephites was organization, the second was catching them up on things that they missed, starting with the teachings from the Sermon on the Mount.

The Atonement and Resurrection have been completed, so we are no longer looking forward through the Law of Moses but now remembering through the sacrament (which will also be part of this visit). From a procedural point of view, the priority makes sense, but what struck me while reading this time was that now we are looking more inward than outward. The rituals and rules under Mosaic Law were supposed to guide you, so it's not that it didn't matter what kind of person you were, but now we are really thinking about the kind of person you are.

I was thinking about that, and thinking it might make more sense to cover that while actually in the New Testament, but then something bothered me that I thought would be a tangent, and actually it fits.

It started with a training segment at the end of a church meeting about avoiding the appearance of evil, with an example about being around in bars and how that looks. I was irritated because I have had good times in bars. I don't drink, I am not tempted to drink, but they are meant for lingering more than restaurants are, and sometimes the food is quite cheap.

The example was that if someone else thinks it looks like you're drinking, it could weaken them. I mean, the non-alcoholic drinks generally look different (pop in plastic cups instead of glasses, other things that make it easy for the staff to keep track of who is getting what), but I only know that because I have hung out in bars.

There is a point to the example, in that I do not want to weaken anyone, regardless of how weak they would have to be for that to be an influence. The "appearance of evil" quote comes from Paul (1 Thessalonians 5:22. That is interesting because his epistles often deal with balancing the traditional with the new. First there was pressure on Christian converts to live the law of Moses even if they had not been raised in it, and that didn't make sense. Then it was just to abstain from food that had been part of sacrifices to idols, and then there was a realization that it doesn't really matter, except if a newer convert is watching. It still has the realization that if your heart is right that many actions are neutral.

I was thinking about that, and when I spend time in bars it is not evil, and it shouldn't even look particularly evil, unless you think the bar in itself is evil. People getting together and socializing certainly isn't evil. Of course we don't drink, but even that isn't evil; it's a thing we have covenanted not to do, and there are good reasons for that, but it is not inherently evil.

There is the potential for bad. There are people who drink to excess and there are people who lower their inhibitions a little and do really regrettable things. If that is your mental picture of a bar, then it may look evil even if it is clean and cheerful and full of friendly people having light-hearted fun. There are bars that are depressing and even dangerous.

But thinking about that, yes, people will let alcohol make them do stupid things without anything other than opportunity, but it is also pretty common that with substance abuse (including alcoholism) that there are deep problems there. People may use the buzz to kill the pain of life. It may not be the most productive method, but if it is the most available, it's understandable.

Sometimes the evil isn't so much the alcohol as it is the economic inequality, and the society that keeps trying to devalue some so that others can feel better. Fix those things, and alcohol abuse goes down.

That is a real evil, not an appearance. The real evil needs to be fought. And as I think about that, it feels like avoiding the appearance of evil makes it too easy to ignore the real evil that we should be changing.

I started out feeling irritated with a message, but thinking that I could find a point in it that wasn't necessarily bad. Now I feel like avoiding the appearance of evil is pernicious.

I am sure there is still a way to do it right, probably most importantly by speaking up when something is wrong rather than going along with it. Getting hung up on appearances, though, I can't see that it does much good.

Sunday, February 19, 2017

Trying to be like Jesus - organization

While I was reading the section for his service, as I said, two other things struck me. One was how quickly he set up a church organization.

This happens more in 3 Nephi 11 and 12. Once identification is settled (which could be another topic), Jesus calls Nephi, preaches about baptism, and then chooses the rest of the apostles.

Establishing a church is also important in the New Testament and our latter-day history, so that shouldn't be surprising, but I did notice the immediacy and thought about that.

I have written before about seeing how not attending church kills your testimony, even when it may seem like church is not particularly feeding your testimony. Part of it is probably obedience versus disobedience. Us needing us other could be reason enough.

Examined in the light of trying to follow Christ's example, the easy answer is that we should participate in the organization. I will go to church, and I will serve in my calling, and I will worship in communal ways as well as private ways. I mean, obviously I am not going to follow him by setting up my own church, especially when I believe he organized this one. That makes the easy answer more of a follow than emulate kind of thing. Is that too easy?

It feels like there can be some room to acknowledge that if we need each other, and we can benefit by coming together, there may be inspired ways of building on that.

I was in singles wards for many years. Toward the end there was a much larger mix of immature and self-absorbed young singles. They wanted to feel important and had no grasp that serving others was the best way of making that happen. It was a great cause of despair for one bishop's wife.

I remember talking with her about this, and the only thing I could suggest was that maybe she could invite some to serve others. Have this lonely person over to back cookies for this other lonely person, and maybe that would spark something.

It is more work that way, but God is constantly choosing to work through us, which I sadly realize must always be more work.

If he has decided that we are worth the extra effort, then I can't reasonably decide that we aren't. I can look for more opportunities to bring others along.

That may mean inviting others to volunteer in existing situations and it could mean setting up new organizations if there is a need that is not being met but could be.

Looking for ways to involve others in doing good feels like something he would do.

Sunday, February 12, 2017

Trying to be like Jesus - 3 Nephi 17

I was pretty sure this would be my first topic, because I knew there was something here. As I was getting to it - still reading in order because it's hard for me to do things any other way - I found two other things that seem significant.

Those might be the next two weeks, and there might be other things I find before I get to the wedding in Cana, which I originally thought would be the second post. My point is that it is always good to go back to the scriptures, because no matter how many times we have read them and how much we remember, there is always more.

(And, just in case anyone reading along does not have the non-Bible scriptures, they are online too: https://www.lds.org/scriptures?lang=eng)

3 Nephi, chapter 17:

1 Behold, now it came to pass that when Jesus had spoken these words he looked round about again on the multitude, and he said unto them: Behold, my time is at hand.

2 I perceive that ye are weak, that ye cannot understand all my words which I am commanded of the Father to speak unto you at this time.

3 Therefore, go ye unto your homes, and ponder upon the things which I have said, and ask of the Father, in my name, that ye may understand, and prepare your minds for the morrow, and I come unto you again.

4 But now I go unto the Father, and also to show myself unto the lost tribes of Israel, for they are not lost unto the Father, for he knoweth whither he hath taken them.

5 And it came to pass that when Jesus had thus spoken, he cast his eyes round about again on the multitude, and beheld they were in tears, and did look steadfastly upon him as if they would ask him to tarry a little longer with them.

6 And he said unto them: Behold, my bowels are filled with compassion towards you.


When we get to parables, I might write about how sometimes the best and most loving thing you can do for someone is not give them knowledge they are not ready for. That is not what is happening here.

These people are eager to learn, and they can handle more knowledge, but not today. They are still mortal. They are tired. Their minds and bodies both need to rest, and taking some time to ponder what they have already heard will help the next round of learning go better. It is for their own good that they pause.

They also just don't want to lose this feeling. They don't want him to go. I can understand that.

He understands it even better, and finds a way to make it work. He calls up all of their sick and afflicted and heals them. He allows time for personal contact. That would still be something where you want to pay attention because it is wonderful to see, but it is a different way of engaging. Then he takes and blesses their children.

I believe that even in the pause in teaching he is teaching us something. Service can be better than a lecture - depending on the needs - and it does still teach. And even though we do not have the same abilities to bless and heal, we have some abilities.

Perhaps there are difficulties that we can remove, or there is work we can do. I cannot give you the ability to walk again, but I can give you a ride here, or take your laundry and get it done for you today.

I know there is a lot of love that is felt when you take time for children. They respond to it, and it means a lot to their parents.

We may want to be missionaries all the time, preaching to people and showing them a better way. That has merit, but it can wrong if we are showing that we feel superior (often incorrectly), or wearying people who have other things to deal with. These are stressful, disheartening times.

I still find that there are often many ways to serve and cheer and to make the time we spend together good. If we wish to be like Jesus, that is something to consider.

Sunday, February 5, 2017

How we define

I read an online comic called Dumbing of Age. Set at Indiana University, college freshmen - including one girl raised in a religious fundamentalist home - encounter people with different backgrounds, beliefs, races, genders, orientations, and it is a learning time.

For Joyce, part of that has been seeing the good in others who don't share her faith, including those with no faith, and seeing flaws with the exclusion and condemnation that were a part of her church. This is a recent strip:

http://www.dumbingofage.com/2017/comic/book-7/02-everything-youve-ever-wanted/episcopalian/#comment 

My first reaction was thinking that there are churches that are way more hippie than Episcopalians. I like the comic, but I also will always at least scan the comments, because they get some good discussions going. One on this strip was about how it can be easy to define yourself by what you are against, and what you can't even get close to because your whole thing becomes being against it.

It struck me because I have known for a long time that you don't want to be defined by the negative position. There is more light in being for something, and being for the right things. This is especially true because fear becomes so much a part of being "against".

That is where the idea for the next blog series came from, but I am going to explore the idea a little more first.

At girl's camp once (so this goes back many years), I remember Brother Winwood teaching us about motivations. He used taking out his wife as an example. He could do it because he was scared not to, or because it was something he should do, or because it was something he wanted to do. He pointed out that doing things from love and desire is better, but then it was something I thought about a lot on my own.

Fear can help you make reasonable decisions sometimes, but it is not an ideal state. Duty has good things about it too, but it can be a grind. Love always sounded better. It feels better. It sustains you better. Love is the way to be.

In thinking about how to define myself, the obvious thing would be to try and be like Christ. I am not defined by trying to avoid evil, but by actively trying to be good. That's something we preach anyway, but it can be good to take a look at it again, and this seems like a good time to go through the scriptures and remember what he did and how he related to people, because that's how I want to be.

That will mainly be pulling from the four gospels, but I will be using other scriptures, because I can, and I think that means that next week I am going to start with 3rd Nephi, mainly because that works well with where I was in my personal study anyway. Besides, if I tried to go in straight chronological order, I'd be sure to miss something and then get all irritated with myself. I am just going to take this as it comes.